FROM
THE SERIES: FROM THE HILL, STRAIGHT TO
HOSPITAL
I personally met Judie in May 2007 when I first came to the UK. From then until the end of 2017 I kept in touch by emails and in person, she being one of the very few humans that contributed, beneficial, to the change of our destiny, Calin's and mine.
In 2007 Judie was an active woman; she did not have a family near her, but she had many friends and many more acquaintance. She was honest, maybe too honest, and tried, as much as she could, to help, without discriminating, humiliating or demanding advantages of any kind. Sometimes she behaved strange, she said it was due to a mental illness she'd suffered since childhood. We, myself and Calin, have put these actions of her on the fact that she had too much confidence in what people say, especially psychiatrists and occult groups with whom she was in constant contact, and especially because she drank too much whiskey.
Because this article is part of a series of articles over the UK health system, I thought of introducing into it the electronic correspondence, which I had with Judie, for four years and half of "silent suffering" on her part. With the subject being the one I've announced, I've removed from the emails the paragraphs that refer to something else.
All emails, except for the first and last, will be inserted as paragraphs, containing the date they were sent. Some paragraphs will be accompanied by comments that will explain the content of the emails. If some of the emails received from Judie do not seem coherent or clear enough, it is because she became confused because of illness, whiskey and loneliness (the sick person becomes more and more lonely because of self-isolation and the attitude of the close people).
In a separate article, I publish the Romanian version of the correspondence with her.
In 2007 Judie was an active woman; she did not have a family near her, but she had many friends and many more acquaintance. She was honest, maybe too honest, and tried, as much as she could, to help, without discriminating, humiliating or demanding advantages of any kind. Sometimes she behaved strange, she said it was due to a mental illness she'd suffered since childhood. We, myself and Calin, have put these actions of her on the fact that she had too much confidence in what people say, especially psychiatrists and occult groups with whom she was in constant contact, and especially because she drank too much whiskey.
Because this article is part of a series of articles over the UK health system, I thought of introducing into it the electronic correspondence, which I had with Judie, for four years and half of "silent suffering" on her part. With the subject being the one I've announced, I've removed from the emails the paragraphs that refer to something else.
All emails, except for the first and last, will be inserted as paragraphs, containing the date they were sent. Some paragraphs will be accompanied by comments that will explain the content of the emails. If some of the emails received from Judie do not seem coherent or clear enough, it is because she became confused because of illness, whiskey and loneliness (the sick person becomes more and more lonely because of self-isolation and the attitude of the close people).
In a separate article, I publish the Romanian version of the correspondence with her.
2012
•JUDIE REGLER judieregler@.......net.com 06/18/12 at 7:01 PM To Marylena Thanks Marylena
I cannot go because I am in hospital tomorrow and for the next ten days... I come out every day …….they are trying some new magnetic therapy for me with depression, etc…(……………………) Best wishes LOL Judie xx.)
•From: Marylena ……..marylena@yahoo.com To: JUDIE REGLER judieregler@.......net.com
Sent: Monday, 18 June 2012, 19:10 Subject: Re: dear JUDIE
I hope the hospital therapy will be ok for you; as you know, I dont belive in this sort of treatment (………………………………………..)
•J. 06/19/12 at 2:34 PM (…………………)I know you do not agree with this form of treatment but I have had so many different treatments (from Shamanic, Holistic, Drug, Electric Shocks I feel I can only give this one a try)(…………………)
•J. 12/27/12 at 3:02 PM Thank you so much for your lovely card and hope you both had a lovely Christmas. Unfortunately I am still unwell with hiatus hernia and cannot eat or breathe as my stomach has broken through diaphragm and is sitting on my lung. It is now nearly one year and still NHS not willing to operate. I am on a long list. Had to get rid of Woody and Dog because I could not look after them. My new address if…. North…. Court, Louth Wishing you both a happy healthy and prosperous New Year.
•M. 30/12/12 at 0:46 Usually when the sphincter between the stomach and esophagus breaks producing a hiatal hernia, it is not treated by surgery but first you must try changes into the lifestyle, the diet, try medication, and only then if they do not work recourse to surgery They are done by weight reduction, alcohol cessation, diet contain no fatty foods, fried foods, onions and garlic, tomatoes and citrus fruits, chocolate, soft drinks with caffeine, sweets with mint, spicy foods, sauces with tomato juice; meals must be small and frequently; the bed must be higher in the chest and head area. I have the same problem and I accept no mechanical procedures such as surgery or endoscopy. (……) I hope you solve your health problems the best you can.
•JUDIE REGLER judieregler@.......net.com 06/18/12 at 7:01 PM To Marylena Thanks Marylena
I cannot go because I am in hospital tomorrow and for the next ten days... I come out every day …….they are trying some new magnetic therapy for me with depression, etc…(……………………) Best wishes LOL Judie xx.)
•From: Marylena ……..marylena@yahoo.com To: JUDIE REGLER judieregler@.......net.com
Sent: Monday, 18 June 2012, 19:10 Subject: Re: dear JUDIE
I hope the hospital therapy will be ok for you; as you know, I dont belive in this sort of treatment (………………………………………..)
•J. 06/19/12 at 2:34 PM (…………………)I know you do not agree with this form of treatment but I have had so many different treatments (from Shamanic, Holistic, Drug, Electric Shocks I feel I can only give this one a try)(…………………)
•J. 12/27/12 at 3:02 PM Thank you so much for your lovely card and hope you both had a lovely Christmas. Unfortunately I am still unwell with hiatus hernia and cannot eat or breathe as my stomach has broken through diaphragm and is sitting on my lung. It is now nearly one year and still NHS not willing to operate. I am on a long list. Had to get rid of Woody and Dog because I could not look after them. My new address if…. North…. Court, Louth Wishing you both a happy healthy and prosperous New Year.
•M. 30/12/12 at 0:46 Usually when the sphincter between the stomach and esophagus breaks producing a hiatal hernia, it is not treated by surgery but first you must try changes into the lifestyle, the diet, try medication, and only then if they do not work recourse to surgery They are done by weight reduction, alcohol cessation, diet contain no fatty foods, fried foods, onions and garlic, tomatoes and citrus fruits, chocolate, soft drinks with caffeine, sweets with mint, spicy foods, sauces with tomato juice; meals must be small and frequently; the bed must be higher in the chest and head area. I have the same problem and I accept no mechanical procedures such as surgery or endoscopy. (……) I hope you solve your health problems the best you can.
2013
•J. 01/16/13 at 4:28 PM sorry I have not replied. I have been in a mental hospital since Boxing Day! They are very cruel. My hernia I have controlled for years but now my stomach is sitting on my lung and I cannot even breathe.(………………………………) When I have had my operation and can breathe and walk again I will come over and see you.
•JUDIE REGLER judieregler@.......net.com 02/11/13 at 6:47 PM To Calin CC Marylena Hiya
Just wondered how you and Marylena are? I have been to hospital today to get tests for my hernia operation quite a big operation it seems. (………………………………………). Dont eat any cheap burgers or lasagne!!!Hope you are both well LOL Judie
•M. 12/02/13 at 13:51 (………………) Calin has acneea rosacea because of the conditions in which he works (………………………), and I have pretty big problems with my right leg due to arthritis. I would not agree with the surgery, but if you're determined to do it, then hopefully you carry it easily and it does not create complications for you. (…………………….)
•J. 02/12/13 at 5:22 PM Sorry to hear you are both having health problems. My operation is now very necessary as I cannot walk more than about 20 metres and am sick when I eat. I dont really want it but seems it is necessary. I am leaving my organs to donation if I dont make it through the operation (.)
•J. 02/14/13 at 7:21 PM Sorry but I am going to have to cancel Saturday not feeling very well. (………………………) Hope you are both good LOL Judie PS: Will let you know as soon as ……………. and/or I come out of hospital as they make take me in for my operation. (………….) Look forward to seeing you on Saturday
•M. 15/02/13 at 20:41 (..…) I am sorry you dont feel good; (……) Maybe if we come tomorrow around 3 pm you will feel better
•J. 02/16/13 at 5:30 PM Sorry I had forgotten about (…………………………) Otherwise I will see you at about 2.30.
•J. 02/17/13 at 8:13 PM Great to see Calin today - I thought you were coming with him-would have been good to see you (……………) Hoping to see you soon and when I get over the Op. I can come over to you
•M. 24/02/13 at 23:00 (...) Calin didnt know when you have the operation; I hope you will be ok after it and come to see us in our new home! (…….)
•J. 02/25/13 at 4:05 PM I still have not got a date for the operation (……..)
•M. 25/02/13, 22:51 (………………….) I hope your surgery goes smoothly
•J. 02/26/13 at 5:33 PM (…………………………) I thank you for your good wishes regarding surgery –
•M. 30/03/13 at 21:45 I'm sorry I forgot to congratulate you for your birthday (…………………….) I hope it is not so late to wish you, good health, to get well from surgery and live long and well!
•J. 03/31/13 at 1:35 PM Thank you for your good wishes - unfortunately they have cancelled my operation so I am still quite unwell. (……………..)
•M. 16/06/13 at 13:40 (…………) I have not received any message from you to find even if you managed to make another appointment for surgery or if you feel better! (….……) Maybe, in case you're feeling better, as hopefully you come to (………….)
•J. 06/18/13 at 7:42 PM (……………) I have had my operation which was very painful and only been out of intensive care for two weeks - I still cannot walk far not breathe/eat very well but I guess it is early days(…………)I cannot go anywhere atthe mment. I am not allowed to drive for six month so cannot come to (……..)
•M. 26/06/13 at 13:21 I hope you feel better after surgery and the physical problem was resolved so you do not have trouble in the future, I think you keep a strict diet and rest. If you can not come to (…….…), we will come to you soon. (…………………….) I hope that when we come to you, to be good or better than now!
•J. 06/26/13 at 5:48 PM Yes I am resting a lot. (………………………)
•M. 14/07/13 at 0:05 (…………………………….)We agreed to go to visit you next week, on weekend, if that is ok for you!
•J. 07/14/13 at 1:03 PM (………) Yes it would be lovely to see you next week. Wednesday I go to a knitting group so any other day would be fine but please email me first just in case I get hospital appt or other. ONCE AGAIN WELL DONE TO YOU BOTH
•M. 24/08/13 at 0:14 I would like to know if you did the second surgery and / or feel better now! (………………….) we (……..) go and visit you on Saturday or Sunday, if you agree.
•J. 08/26/13 at 6:00 PM (……………………) I am still waiting to hear from Consultant about whether they can do another operation or not as may be too risky. Be lovely to see you on Saturday (say about 11am) (……….)
•M. 27/08/13 at 11:15 I received your mail only today, Tuesday, so we did not know what was happening and we did not come, however we must phone you before. Maybe we can come this weekend, (………………….). I do not know what to say for a 2nd surgery, because I generally do not agree with surgery, especially when it's not a physical trauma that can only be resolved surgically. However, if you have to do a 2 surgery we wish it will not unbearable, risky and will feel better after it.
•J. 10/28/13 at 15:15(…. )how you both are? Me still waiting for another hospital appointment and no exciting news to tell you
•M. 30/10/13 at 10:38 After a very thorough analysis of what happened to us (………………………) , we concluded that both suffer from anxiety. I do everything I can to bring in our lives as many elements of stability and security as I can but the fight with the system is difficult and extremely tiresome so my health problems have increased. I spoke to doctor about all this and I concluded that anxiety and chronic fatigue are the reasons why, despite the results of the investigations are in the normal limits I feel bad. But we can only go forward: (………………………………………) We both thought what happens to you regarding the 2nd surgery you told us and how you feel now but I did not write or phone, although we could do it, I suppose because we are too uptight in psychic terms. However we hope that things are not so bad and you can deal with the situation .
•J. 10/30/13 at 1:16 PM I am so sorry to hear that you are both suffering from anxiety (…………….) I suffer from anxiety and take a tablet called Clonazepam 0.5 mg twice a day I know you do not like medication but perhaps in the short term it may help you. (……………) My operation has not happened yet and I am seeing a new Doctor as I am scared of the old one he it just a Butcher! I hope you will try the medication if only for a short while to see if it helps you?
•M. 19/11/13 at 12:09 From the beginning since you told me about the surgery I was worried about you . That is like the lottery : win or lose , however if the surgeon is concerned over the patient and not over the illness as a theory and practice then it is more likely for the patient to be treated correctly. But I think such a doctor is almost impossible to find. It's the main reason I do not consider a doctor's diagnose and especially prescriptions. Also I really believe in the healing power of nature and the nature helps me maintain my health to a bearable level. Anyway as the natural remedies really help you, you has to know and love them! Natural coffee is really good as food and can be a cure for certain health problems. Unfortunately I can not use because I suffer from blood pressure and nor I do like coffee. To keep under control the anxiety I use psychic exercise, some particular herbs as tea and some Romanian medicines made from plants, I would use some bee products but I have not yet found the way to buy them from Romania. In Romania there are many treatment resorts, with competent doctors and therapists concerned the patient, having the best facilities and equipment. I intend to go there for various treatments or cures, not next year as we have still ( ……….…) obstacle, but in 2015 and hopefully you can go with me, but I guess that depends on the success of your second surgery.(………………………….) We hope you are ok!
•J. 11/20/13 at 10:22 AM Thank you for your concern I see the new surgeon tomorrow but am worried about what he will say and more importantly what he is going to recommend. I am pleased that you are able to find good remedies and they are natural ones too. Would be lovely to go to Romania in 2015 but will have to see how the Hernia Op. goes (that is if they decide to do it?)(………………………………..) So please give my love to Calin and to you
•M. 22/12/13 at 13:54 (………………) We hope your health has not deteriorated. If you and your surgeon have decided that you need a new operation and it was done to you already, we hope things went well and that your condition is at least bearable.
•J. 12/24/13 at 2:41 PM They have decided it is too risky to operate again so I continue to look pregnant and cant eat properly. Hope you are both well and good WISHING YOU BOTH A WONDERFUL CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY NEW YEAR.
2014
•M. 23/01/14 at 21:47 I am sorry I can not write more often having the time limited by the circumstances we are. We want to find out more about you and how you handle on your situation, but we do not even know if you can sit at the computer enough to tell us more. For example we wish to know how you deal with mobility, if you go out, if you can drive the car, generaly how you move. We wish to know how you deal with groceries; or if something else in your body has been affected by the surgery, or if you do treatments or medication that improve your health. Our time is more limited than few months ago (..)
•J. 01/29/14 at 10:34 AM Thank you for your email and asking after me. I cope with doing "on line" shopping because I am scared to go out because of being sick all the time. The surgeons dare not operate again but doctor is now saying that the one who did this to me will have to reoperate as it is becoming life threatening because I cant eat properly. I only have anti sickness medication but it does not work very well. Calin has done very well and if he wants me to write as a Professional I am happy to do that for him. I am a professional Chartered Surveyor (retired) but that should still count. (…………………) I don't drive anymore nor even have a car so am sort of house bound. I am waiting to see the Surgeon but am scared because I put in a complaint about him so he wont like me but he is the only one who can operate - he will just drag it out I think. (……………….)
•M. 6/03/14 at 16:16 I hope you feel better regarding the health and that, in general, you can manage a little bit easier things! (…………………………..) On March 8 at 11 we have a dentist appointment and I think to come, after that, to you (……………) However, when we leave the dentist we will give you a call. (………………………)
•J. 03/07/14 at 9:28 AM (……) I am okay but still being sick. Yeah please come on Saturday (…)Look forward to seeing you both
•M. 4/04/14, 10:35 Sorry that this year also I remembered your birthday later . Anyway we, me and Calin, we wish you a good health and get rid over the 2nd surgery. (…………………………..) Once again we wish you all the best !
•J. 04/05/14 at 5:03 PM No problem about my birthday(.... )it was not very good as I was sick as usual!(………………………………..)
•M. 3/05/14, 21:13 (…………………………… ) The primary goal for the coming of Calin here seems to be accomplished, and you contributed by the fact that you helped him with a good start . We will never forget your contribution to it. It would have been nice if you had not had health problems that you have to participate as a guest at this ceremony. (……………………..)We were just hoping your health to be better and we will come to you soon to show you the certificate. (………………………..)
•J. 05/04/14 at 1:17 PM (……………) CONGRATULATIONS AND WELL DONE (………………..) I would love to come but do not think I would be well enough (………………………………….)
•M. 4/05/14 at 23:36 (…………………………………) Do not worry if you cannot attend. Your helth is more important and, as I said we will come to you to see the certificate
•J. 05/05/14 at 11:19 AM No I don't think I would be well enough to get to Lincoln so I just WISH CALIN ALL THE VERY BEST AND CONGRATULATIONS
•M. 16 May 2014, 11:43 (…………………………) We thought that, if you feel ok, to come to see you (……………………) If this is ok for you, we will come tomorrow between 12 and 15 pm.
•J. 05/18/14 at 9:55 (………………………………..) I am not too well and have been for a gastroscopy on Wednesday soo maybe it would be better if you could come next week. I am very sick and sore. Hope that is okay with you Judie Sorry my email has been down and only just picked up your email.
•M. 18/05/14 at 14:19 We thought that something happened that we did not receive confirmation from you that we can come. We come when you tell us and think you can receive visits; what is really important is you feel better! (………………………) Your health made us sad and we wait you tell us better things at least when doing a medical procedure.
•J. 05/18/14 at 2:36 PM (………………….) I will not get the operation for many weeks so if you would like to come next Saturday (early morning is best for me before I feel sick!) would be good say 10am to 11am? It would be lovely to see you (………).
•M. 25/09/14 at 15:58 I understand that you feel good nor this time, so I'll be brief. Calin left a message on your landline and I intended to write you again because we were worried, although we assumed that you will stay longer in the hospital this time. We hope you feel better and we could pay you a visit soon. (………………………………….)
•J. 09/26/14 at 10:33 AM Thank you for your good wishes I am hopefully out now but have afolow up appointment in a months time. Just so long as you are both good
•M. 9/11/14 at 13:46 It's been a month and a half since I wrote to you. I think that by now, you have had the programmed control for the 2nd operation. We do not know how are you, but we hope that better! Can you tell us what the doctor said about the 2nd operation? (…………..) With few exceptions, we are ok. We are looking forward to hearing from you good news!
•J. 11/11/14 at 9:55 AM (………) Yes I came out after being in there for four months and transferring hospitals not much better. The lump is now solid and is a little bit smaller but I fell down some steps and think I have cracked my ribs so that has not helped!!! (…………………………) Be nice to see you if you have time and can get over
•M. 13/11/14 at 19:51 If you do not mind and this is ok for your health, we would like to come to see you on Saturday 15/11 around 12 o'clock. Can you confirm that we can come?
•J. 11/15/14 at 8:42 AM If you are logged on p[lease contact me as not feeling too well
•J. 11/16/14 at 10:27 AM Than you again for coming to see me and also all the chocolates, sweets etc sorry I wasill and had to go and I Slept all day and night again Contrationuations on your Citizenhip you have worked hard - well done
COMMENT: During our brief visit, Judie asked if we wanted to see how the surgery looks like. We said yes and she lifted the "dress" (a kind of thin sack made of silk, put over panties, not wearing stockings but only some slippers). Her stomach looked like a huge water melon, furrowed by lot of scars, which I do not know if there were traces of the operation. However, the "cut" scar was extremely large, covering the entire stomach, from one side to the other. She told us that all the contents of her belly were sitting in a mesh that replaced the peritoneum. She seemed to be amused by the appearance of her belly! I asked her if she doesn't feel freezed and she told us she did not feel the cold. The house didn't have the heat tourned on; we were dressed like during winter, and I almost froze. I remember that when I met her first and then Calin met her, she wore the right clothing for the season. But since she got sick and especially after the first surgery she wore thin clothes in any season. At some point, about an hour and a half after our arrival, Judie told us she had to go to bedroom to sleep, so we took notice she feels sick, said "goodbye" and left.
•M.16/11/14 at 12:50 We were glad to see you, but we're sad that you do not feel a bit better after the second operation. Sorry I did not see your e-mail on Saturday. If it is better and easier for you to receive short emails to which you respond in your own time, then I will do so. If I ask questions in my emails at which you can not or do not want to answer, please ignore them! The first question would be: why the doctors have recommended you so many pills? Do you feel that these pills help you, and if yes in what way? I send as attachment some pics with Calin at graduation.
•J. 11/18/14 at 10:45 AM Firstly I think I forgot to tank you for all the sweets, etc. THAN YOU. The tablets are not just for the hernia, but for anti-sickness, cholesterol and other medical problems so I have to take them! I am now just on one anti sickness instead of four so that is better but I think you are correct and they really do not do much good and one tablet they have taken me off because it was causing heart failure an should not have been prescribed for longer than five days and I was on it for two years!!! Than you for the pictres -pleased you have both done so well.
•M. 21/11/14 at 21:10 You told me that you were in two hospitals. Have you been in a hospital for the first surgery and in other for the second? Or have you been in two hospitals due to the 2nd operation? One month and half ago, you wrote that in a month time, you will go to control, but in the email before our visit to you, you said, you spent four months in hospital. I understand from what you wrote, that you came home after the 2nd operation but probably you felt not well and when you went to control the doctor decided to get hospitalized you again. I assume that the same doctor, who has operated you the first time, did the 2nd and the control. What he told you about your condition and how the operation looks now? What is your opinion about the 2nd operation? However we wish you feel better in the future!
•J. 11/28/14 at 10:03 AM Went into London on 30 June and was in hospital for weeks. They transferred me to different wards and then to Louth Hos[pital. They sent me home from London but I had to go back because I could not breathe and they sent meto Louth Hospital again. They really do not know what they are doing I am okay as far as I can be(……………………………….)
•M. 3/12/14 at 22:51 (………………….)of course it will not be any problem if you can not send any Christmas postcard. However, we may pay you a visit, to see you this month.(…………………….) We hope you feel better!
•J. 12/05/14 at 11:04 AM Of course you can come along with month and I will be pleased to see you both. Good luck to Call;(…….) Woody is now very old and at Bransby Rest Home for Horses (you can google search it!) He is well - I dare not go and see him but I did telephone about two weeks ago and he is now very old for a horse(…………..) Wishing you all the best and look forward to hearing from you when you are coming here
•M. 11/12/14 at 16:41 (……………………………………………..) Thinking to pay you a visit on Monday, December 15th around 12 o'clock, if you agree and your health is well enough so that we can get to visit you. I was wondering if you still keep drinking whisky, because if so, then we should bring you a bottle as a Christmas present. We hope you feel better!
•J. 12/12/14 at 8:32 AM I am at the Opticians at 11.10 on Monday having eye test so that should take about an hour or so. What about 2pm and I should be back by then as have to get a taxi Let me know and NO - you must not buy me any whiskey.
•M. 15/12/14, at 23:0 We hope you are ok! We arrived to your home at 2.15 pm but nobody answered when we called nor to intercom, nor to phone or mobile. The tall carer girl, was to your door. We waited for one hour and then leaved. I gave to this carer a box of chocolate for you; she said she will put it in your post. I said her you was to ophthalmologist, today, but as I supposed she knew nothing. We are sorry, we couldn't see you today; however, if you was too tired and slept, for us this is not a problem; only we wish to learn if you are ok.
•J. 12/16/14 at 8:31 AM I am so sorry to have missed you. I was not very well in the morning and had to miss the opticicans. Tracey was here and she thought I looked unwell and sent me to bed with my tablllets. I did not take up until about 8 pm - Sorry you had such a long journey and I was so rude not to be ready to see you. Maybe Tracey has an old phone number of Calin's but she definitiely phoned to explain. Thank you for the Chocolataes - I have not got them yet as the girl only comes in every other day. I am on some new tablets to stop me being sick and I think they are affecting me in other ways because I sleep 16 hours a day sometimes. Anyway going to opticians now I AM SO SORRY TO HAVE MADE YOU COME ALL HE WAY HERE. LOTS OF LOVE AND MERRY CHRISTMAS AND NEW YEAR
•M. 16/12/14 at 19:53 We are glad that you are ok and we were not upset that I came up there, but I could not see. We do not think, you were rude because you missed us, but that you have felt unwell and we assumed that you sleep. That could not upset us; we just worried about you. The girl at the reception said that she will put the chocolate in your mailbox, and I thought that your mailbox is next to your door. (……………………)
•J. 12/17/14 at 9:23 AM I am still sorry that you came all this way (……………………………..) Trying searching "Motability." I think they may be going to give me the allowance and then I might get a small car?! At lease I will be more mobile. I think the girl may have kept your presents in her office and she is not here until Friday so Thanks again.
•M. 17/12/14 at 23:41 If you do not feel ill and you agree, we intend to come to see you, on Saturday December 20 around 12
•J. 12/18/14 at 8:32 AM 10 o clock would be better then I can have my tablets at 8 am and should not feel too bad. Hope that's ok with you otherwise suggest another time or day
2015
•M. 15/01/15 at 14:57 We are glad to learn that you are trying to have a social life, going to courses,and having some relations with old and new friends! That uses to keep your health at least at the level where you are now. We hope yourhealth to be at least slightly improved since our last visit.(………….. ) We wish you health! You will know that we permanent think of you!
•J. 01/16/15 at 6:45 AM Glad to hear you are both good. I am still about the same but hoping to go on hypnotherapy course next week and a Spirit one in February (…………………….)
•M. 24/01/15 at 18:11 (……….) at 12 a clock we will be to you. Is that ok? If not, then we will visit you in another
•J. 01/25/15 at 8:14 AM Maybe next week may be better as after what has happened I have the Police and others visiting me. Whatd it was was my Sister, Tracey came here (unbeknown to me) pretended there were Witches and spent four days tryingto convince me I was mad and then left without me seeing her, The Police are useless but the Crisis Team confirm I am sane and lucid and so there should be investigation etc. but I doubt they will bother. I will let you know a good day
•M. 28/01/15, at 22:28 Calin said that your sister Tracy wanted to convince him and Marian they are mad also. Somehow she wants to find as many mad people, even among healthy people? Please tell us when we could visit you. (………………………….) We wish you good health and to finish quickly with the problems created by your sister!
•J. 01/29/15 at 8:39 AM I think I had better leave it until next week because I have Doctors and Psychiastrists coming because they believe I am mad!! It was a relief to hear she has tried to do it with Calin because I couild not believe what she was doing to me and now is in tears saying it is me making it all up. Of course my other sister believes her and I feel that perhaps I am going mad!! I will email you next week or you email me if I forget
•J. 01/30/15 at 9:38 AM I have a psychiastrist coming today and doubt he will believe me about Tracey. Can you tell me anything which she did Calin or Marian which may help my case. I can believe my sister wanted to make me belive I am mad? I will not tell anything you say to psychiatrist nor where it comes from HELP PLEASE #
•M. 31/01/15 at 2:05 Subject: Dear JUDIE (……………………………….) Late at night I opened the computer and saw your email. Looks like I understood Calin's words wrong. He said now that when he and Marian came in the UK and Tracy was at your home, he was told that she is trying to make people think they are mad. He remembers just she did not make a good impression on him and that one day she brought Calin and Marian some bunnies chocolate and this thing seemed strange to him. Somehow your sister Tracy is the one that you waited in Lincoln railway station in 2007 when we first met? There are few things we do not understand. Why Tracy came and leaved your home without let you know? Why Tracy wants to make the psychiatrist to believe you're mad? Who called the police and doctors to your home? If Friday the psychiatrist came, what was the conclusion he reached? Did you tell your step daughter that Tracy harrass you and about the whole situation?
•J. 01/31/15 at 7:59 AM I don't understand any of it I know she can be a bit bitchy but why she would want tomake me think I was made? And now because the Drs. and Police have been involved she is saying it is all me trying to upset her? The Dr. came yesterday (psychiatrist) and he was lovely, thought I ws was a nice woman, never mentioned any other drugs or me going into hospital and just to put it all behind me. But that is quite difficult when I spent five days stuck in my flat because I daren't go out.]. I go to my psychic week on 16 to 20th so maybe will get some answers then? Next week I have appt. with Consultant regarding my herna so maybe if you would like to come over after I come back and I can tell you all about it. So lots of love from the "mad woman!"
•M. 9/02/15 at 0:31 Subject: Dear JUDIE (………………………) You said you will go, last week to see the consultant for your hernia. What did the doctor say about your last surgery and how he thinks it is now? Did he gave you a different medication from that which you had yet? How do you feel now? Has something different happened, apart from what you said us, from Tracey's departure? Who goes with you to your psychic course?
•J. 02/09/15 at 7:55 AM (………….) The consultant again cancelled my appointment so I am still the same. Tracey is not speaking to me and is not sympathetic at all. I go to the psychic group on my own but there will be people there from last year so I look forward to telling you when I get back all about it All the best - see you soon
•M. 18/02/15, 10:06 (……………………….) Because of stress and anger, the health problems which both of us had already, began to emphasize. Although upset, we continue to think about how you feel. Have you been to the doctor for control of your illness and operations? If you were to your psyche course, how was it? How's it going the relationship with your sisters?
•J. 02/21/15 at 9:47 AM I am sorry you are having problems because Calin has much more ability than most English people! Keep Trying I came back from the Psychic week but had been ill all the time. Not only the sickness but I got flu and chest infection so I am still not well. It is such a shame as I missed many of the workshops with the top mediums/psychics and also all the lovely meals. With the cost of the course and the taxi to get there it really was a waste of money. Just one exception - I got a message through from my Father, Mother and Husband so not all was wasted. I hope you are both feeling better (………………….) I will email you when I feel a little better
•M. 28/02/15 at 12:02 (………………) Sorry that you did not feel well during the course and so you could not enjoy the activities there. Maybe now that you're home you feel better! We hope so it is the case. You say you got in touch with your dead family; what you learned from them and how it influenced your health?
•J. 03/01/15 at 6:22 AM (…………………….) I still have flu and chest infection and start more tablets on Monday. I do not wish you to catch it so perhaps if you would like to come the week after (……………………)
•J. 03/02/15 at 9:23 AM Just had appointment for procedure in two weeks time so will have to conact you when \I out- hoping it wil only be 1 or 2 days
•M. 03/03/15 at 3:25 PM Do not worry that you go to the hospital for procedure and you may miss a visit from us. It is more important to see your health situation! (………..) We hope your flue passed and you feel better now. Also to the appointment, your doctor may find that your general health has improved.
•J. 03/12/15 at 9:48 AM Hope you are both well and happy I came back from my COLONOSCOPY the day before yesterday and they found THREE POLYPS. On of them they left but one they removed for a BIOPSY but they do not think it is cancerous. The third one they have taken a biopsy of and they are going to talk to the Surgeon who did the two previous operations about whether to remove it or not. My thoughts are just "leave well alone!" So I am free and would love to see you anytime you have free. Around 10am is best for me because of my tablets (……………) Hope that both you and Calin are good and well
•M. 14/03/15 at 0:10 I think that colonoscopy is a difficult and unpleasant procedure. I was scheduled because of the gastroesophageal reflux, to attend a colonoscopy procedure, I think in 2011, but I refused and it seems that I feel better after I made natural treatment. (……………………..) We do our best to come to visit you on Sunday, March 15, at 10 o'clock, as you said. (…………………….) However, we hope you feel a bit better!
•J. 03/14/15 at 6:32 AM Be good to see you tomorrow (…………………) So see you 10am prompt!!
•JUDIE REGLER judieregler@.......net.com 03/16/15 at 8:36 AM To Marylena ----- Forwarded Message -----To: StevenSpivey Sent: Monday, 16 March 2015, 8:35 Dear Steven I hope that you and yours are fit and well. I have been quite ill over the last three years with two major abdominal operations and over four months in hospital. I now look like a 62 pregnant woman and the second operation failed. (………………………………………)I send you all my best wishes. Judie
•M. 18/03/15 at 20:42 (…………………………..) We hope you are ok!
•J. 03/19/15 at 11:32 AM (……………) I got results from hospital on Tuesday and I have very large polyps which at the moment is not cancerous but has the potential to turn so. I can have it removed but it is perhaps more dangerous as the operation may fail and I could be in a worse state. I think I will leave it alone but I have til April 1st to decide. It was lovely to see you both (…)
•M. 23/03/15 at 22:22 (…………………………) Those giant polyps that you wrote about, make you feel bad? Do you continue to sleep for 20 hours/day? We wish, we could help you even with a tip, but we can only wish you to feel better. The decision for a new operation belongs to you and we can only think you take the best decision for you. However, in two days will be your birthday and we wish you: Happy Birthday and be healthy!
•J. 03/24/15 at 7:42 AM (………..)The big polyps - no it does not hurt but the little one they cut out really hurt for five days and I had sickness and diagoeooo (! cant spell that!) (Shits!) So we were lucky when we went out that I wasn't ill Don't tell me its my birthday - 63 - can believe Ken died when he was 60 and my Mum and Dad at 65 so I suppose I am quite lucky - just wish I was not so ill It must be Easter soon - so wishing you both a lovely Easter (………..)
•M. 04/01/15 at 12:44 AM In a few days will be the Catholic Easter, so we wish you: "Happy Easter" Maybe you can go to enjoy a traditional Easter lunch! (……………) Did you make a decision about colonoscopy? We hope you feel a little better, after all treatment you take!
•M. 9/04/15, 21:22 We hope your journey at the conference in London was not too tiring for your health and that you had a good time there. I remember you attended an one week shamanic course in 2007 when I was first in the UK. Perhaps, then you got a qualification. Anyway, we hope you enjoyed the conference and maybe you met people from Peru and other places eager to learn the secrets of shamanism, known or new people. (…………) We hope you're no longer forced by the pain to take so many tablets and you do not sleep 20 hours/day. We always think that maybe in a little while you will feel better.
•J. 04/10/15 at 7:06 AM The course wasd very interesting but I was unwell (again!) and missed parts of it. Then the final straw was that the Taxi failed to pick me up on Monday and I was stuck in London by myself, unable to walk, no room and no food!!! Eventually managed to get back on Tuesday but the naughty taxi people would not refund me any money and it cost me another £60 for the room for the night but I could not get any food because the hotel did not do any and it was too far to walk to get any. The Course yes was brilliant and Simon Buxton "healed" two people whilst we were doing the course. I just wish he had chosen me but he has given me the names of two lady shaman who he trained and recommends but will have to see what the cost is, etc. I will be in touch soon and we can go for a meal again?
•M. 19/04/15 at 20:21 (………………..)Anyway we hope your health is at least the same. Have you contacted any of the 2 female shaman to know if they can do something for you and how much would cost a session?
•J. 04/20/15 at 9:08 AM (…………………) I have spoken with one of the Shaman ladies ( I cannot remember telling you I was going to do this but she did a "healing" and it seems my mother's family had a curse put on it since 1400 century. It has been removed and she has said she has sent power back to me but really I don't feel any better, in fact worse. The charge is £60 (agh!!) but she says if I don't feel any better she will not charge me. My polyps in my bowel - I have decided to NOT have yet another operation as it could result in having to wear a "bag" which collects all your waste and you have to empty it every day -colposcopy bag-I think that is the correct name. So really I am the same after being stuck in the middle of London-I think I told you that the Taxi failed to turn up and I had to pay for another night in hotel and was so exhausted-I wont go to any more courses unless they are local I think!!!Hope you are good (…………..)We will see you when he is rich and famous!! (about Calin)
•J. 05/02/15 at 9:36 AM Just want to make sure that you are coming tomorrow Sunday 3rd May at 9.45? (…………………………….)
•J. 05/04/15 at 9:41 AM Thank you for coming to see me yesterday - we had a good chat! How did 'you know I had been eating sweets - well I have not bought sweets for about 30 years but on Friday I bought some liquorice (black chewy stuff) and ate all of it!. I think that was why I was not good and today still I have Sickness & D but it seems stuck somewhere!!! SSorry!!! I guess you found the Depersonalisation sites interesting which it is unless you suffer from it because I have no feelings, eetc. and am so depressed but have had to pretend to everyone that I am not. Hope you have a good bank holiday
•M. 05/08/15 at 11:58 PM All week that passed I felt very tired and a little sick. Calin, also is a little stressed because he sleeps too less, goes 5 days/week to work and has not enough time to relax. (……………) We hope you're not too worried about the surgery on the colon that follows!
•M. 9/05/15, 23:32 Today we are a little bit better, because we both had time to sleep more. However, during the week we are extremely tired and angry because of the tiredness. There are too many things we have to sort (………………………….) I did not assume that you ate sweets and so you felt unwell. I tried to say something else, but because of my bad way of speaking English, I do not make myself understood. The best way for me to understand or to make me understood is the written language. Do you still feel unwell?
•J. 05/10/15 at 8:44 Glad you feel a little (………………………………)
•M.12/05/15 at 22:48 (……………………………………….)I do not know what to say about your mental illness that you said, you have since childhood, because you didn't tell me much about it.(………………………………………….) Maybe, the surgery will not complicate and soon you'll be home. We wish you:"Good Luck!" and keep our fingers crossed for you!
•J. 05/13/15 at 8:30 AM (…………………….) I fell again twice and was in Grimsby hospital on Monday night and on a drip and had CT scans - quite scary as had to call 999 as I could not move. Psychiatrist was very nice and is going to get me on some courses to try and make my brain work better!! Next Monday I go for polyps removal so be in touch when I get back
•M. 19/05/15 at 21:46 We hope your surgery succeeded and your last polyp was extirpated. You maybe returned home and feel a little bit better!? (……..)
•J. 05/20/15 at 9:01 AM Yes I am out now they kept me in overnight because it was a difficult procedure. I got home about 6pm last night. The operation was amazing I watched it all on the TV screen so could see everything he was doing and it took him 3 1/2 hours to remove this polyps all via a camera stuck up my BUM! Gosh it seemed a long time. He used forcepts, snares, electricity, argon (a gas) all to remove the polyps without damaging the colon or bowel he was very clever. I have to go back again in 3 months to check that he has got all the bits. Nurses were lovely and this Dr. so so clever.(………………….) Hope you and Calin are good and well
•J. 05/22/15 at 3:31 PM Just had telecon from Lincoln hospital and they have reported that none of the polyps they removed were cancerous so have all clear until 7 September when I have to undergo same procedure
•M. 26/05/15, 22:32 You're home for a week already. How do you feel after your last polyp was removed? Can you eat better? Do you take less medication? The fact that those polyps were not carcinogens, seems to be a good sign, but perhaps more important is how you feel! We're tired! (……………………………………………) Further, we wish you good health and to become active as you were before the first surgery!
•J. 05/27/15 at 7:09 AM Yes I came home the next day. I don't feel any different because I did not even know it was there - it is the hernias which are the problems but I just keep taking the tablets.(………………………..) No exciting news to tell you - I have some social workers coming to see me on Thursday so don't know what they want?!
•M. 4/06/15 at 22:11 Did the social workers came to see you? If so, which was the reason for which they came? How is your health? Did something change? We are just extremely tired! We do not find a way to increase the time for rest! (…………………………..) Anyway, we are expecting some good news from you!
•J. 06/05/15 at 8:09 AM Yes the Social Workers came but they did not really do anything only brought some brochures which really I could have got myself.,Sorry you are feeling so tired - you may like to try what I do and have a rest in the afternoon = we are not getting any younger!
•M. 8/06/15 at 16:28 (……)we hope that your health has not deteriorated. (……………) we think to pay you a visit, if your health allows it. (………)
•J. 07/08/15 at 4:57 PM (………) Anther stupid thing in England is that people think that professional people with letters after their name are good and reputable - I am but many are not but I am always happy to provide Calin with both a professional and personal reference and put my RICS letters after my name. I have not been too bad and have not been sick for about a week now so that is promising?! I am thinking of going on a spiritual course in two week goggle The Arthur Findlay College Stansted founder of spiritualism but am frightened in case I am ill when I get there it is a week long course (………)
•M. 14/07/15 at 13:34 (………………….) Maybe it would be better for you to look to the local courses provided by Louth County Council, Louth college, library or other local training providers, which you can attend easily and that are for a shorter period of time. (………………………) However, if you feel better and decide to go to the course at Stansted, we wish you to enjoy it! By the way, did you do any other therapy session with the female shaman that you said about, couple of months ago?
•J. 07/20/15 at 7:07 PM I am at Stansted now - it is under the Arthur Findlay College, Stanstead and is a beautiful old building which was left by Arthur Findlay to Spiritualisam. You may be interested to read all about it and see the pictures. I am not too well though and tonight we have a séance!!! I have not been to one before. There are some very clever people here who can "read" people but I think you are good at that already!! No other news Will email you when I get back
•J.6/08/15 at 3:30 PM I cannot remember if you said you were coming over this Saturday. It would be good and I can take 'you both to a new place to eat Breakfast - and we can walk from my flat!!! Hope you are both well - Please let me know as I will have to book in for about 10.15 as they start lunches at noon.
•M.7/08/15 at 17:36 I didn't say we will come on Saturday, to visit you. This Saturday we have , both, appointment with the dentist and next Saturday I have a test. However we should pay you a visit on a Sunday, maybe next one. You said you will write us about your course. What happened there and especially, how you felt there! How is your health; is it a bit better? Hope we can you meet soon!
•J. 08/08/15 at 12:09 PM Not to worry we can arrange another day, Hope all goes well at the dentist!!aghhhh! The course was a disaster I was really ill (mentally)and had to come home. It was such a waste of money but at least I tried. I had some"trance"healing from one of the Mediums there but don't really feel any different. If you look up Arthur Findlay College Stansted you can see what a beautiful place it is and the food was excellent but of course I couldn't eat much
•M. 25/08/15 at 11:53 (……………………) Also, we are both very tired and need rest. Calin is sleeping late in the weekend, so we can not reach to your home, early in the morning. If you have the same program, in which you have to sleep for 20 hrs, it will be difficult for us to meet you soon. I always ask Calin, when we can pay you a visit, but he doesn't know because he's always too tired and I think we should let you know about our visit, at least, a day before. (…………….) If we were not so stressed and having so much work to do, our health would, probably, be better than it is now. We hope that your health is at least, at the same level as it was the last time I've written, or it improved a little bit
•J. 08/25/15 at 2:52 PM You sound very stressed but also have a lot going on (which can only be good too!!!) I am okay but have fallen twice now in the last two weeks. (…) You are so clever and pro-active!!!! Hope to see you soon
•J. 09/16/15 at 12:23 PM I DONT knowif you have sent an email but have been in hospital for the last 17 days and so so poorly Will write again when feel a bit better Hope you are good
•M. 17/09/15 at 10:22 We are sorry you was in hospital for so many days, but we hope you will feel a bit better after that.It is true that I sent you an email and we were worried that you do not answer. (……….) You said in the last email that you're ok, but you fallen 2 times in 2 weeks. Why does this happen? Do you lack calcium, or do you suffer from anemia, or are you weakened for other reasons? What do you do in the situation when you fall? We hope that during this time, I didn't write, your health situation changed into a bit better one!
•J. 09/18/15 at 10:17 AM Sorry I could not let you know and really I am no better than when I went in, although Ihave been eating (when I had not eaten or drunk for over 7 days) (………………)Be in touch soon (…......)
•M. 30/09/15 at 12:37 The problems we have with money are not so serious, but they require too much time and nerves to resolve. The money are less than a few months ago, and this prevents us from making or delay our plans. On the other hand, speaking about the help that we could received from CAB or other organizations and institutions I can only say that they are useless. Since the beginning of my arrival in the UK I even tried to get, at least, correct information, including from CAB and because I have not succeeded, I began to inform on my own. Now I come to the performance, not only to know more than any advisor from any organization or institution, but I know how, where and when to use this information. Just as I said before, it takes me too much time that I could use for more important things, but especially too much nerves, in my "fight" with government institutions, which, I admit, are stronger than me and abuse of this power. However, any problem which could arise, can be solved if you're healthy. But when the health is not good, any other problem becomes minor. So our money problems are minor toward yours health issues, that you do not feel well or even you feel worse than before. Maybe, you can write more about how do you afford, all alone, everyday problems: getting dressed, eating, moving around, supply, personal and house cleanliness, and everything else. If we were closer, or at least if we could have more time, we could at least visit you more often! I can only say that we are sorry that your health situation does not seem to improve with all healthcare into hospital or home! We still hope that better times will come for you!
•J. 09/30/15 at 2:58 PM Oh Thank you Marylena and Calin, I am very lucky in terms of finances as I get PIP (Personal Independent Payment) formerly known as Disability Living Allowance. I know now (from my sister who is a social worker that the Government have cut down substantially on this!)(…………………………………………….) I do not do that because as you know I have both mental and physical problems but I really receive no help only in terms of money which is one less thing to worry about. I just pay the money I get to Tracey (step daughter) to come and clean my flat. So I am sorry I have no real solution to your problems only as I say above. I know the CAB - I trained with them for six months until I became ill and they have to follow "the system" despite them saying they will fight for the "down and out!!" I wish you both well Did I tell you I fell out of be and now have a broken foot!!!!! But at least the NHS have given me a disgusting boot to wear and it has eased the pain.
•M. 27 October 2015, 14:14 (…………….) I've been a few times, to have blood tests for the annual heart revision. Last year, I told to GP that I think I have kidney problems, and he said I don't have, but after the blood tests from this year, it found out that I was right, thinking I have. My father died of stroke on the operating table for kidney failure and I know that kidney disease can be hereditary. Anyway, I will investigate to see what the problem is and I will manage my own treatment. (………) We hope your health have remained, at least, at the same level. How you deal with daily care? Do you still sleep as much as you used; do you still eat only once a day? What about going outdoors and what do you eat when you are home? You don't still feel the cold weather?
•J. 10/31/15 at 6:56 AM (………..)Sorry you are having health problems. Mine continue with broken foot and bad back but they are improving(….)
•M. 2/11/15 at 11:27 You say you still have problems with the broken foot and bad back, but that they are improving. If your general health improves, then we are happy for you! My health problems are not serious, just annoying. Tomorrow I go to physiotherapy, but, you know, I did not trust the usual procedure, so I think that tomorrow procedure will not have a real effect on my painful heel. However, I continue to apply my own procedures and treatments. (……………) Anyway thank you, in advance, for your kindness, even you have big problems with your health! (……..)
•J. 11/03/15 at 6:50 AM thank you for your good wishes - hope you get on ok at psysio(…………………)
•M. 5/11/15 at 16:12 I talked to Calin and we will pay you a visit on Saturday November 7th. I suppose you want we to come to your home in the morning, so we will do our best to be there on or around 10 am.
•J. 11/06/15 at 9:38 AM That is fine and if you would like and I feel well enough we can go to Kenwick for Breakfast!!
•J. 11/08/15 at 7:32 AM Many thanks for my two presents - you are really kind and thoughtful Hope you enjoyed the breakfast.... I was OK and NOT sick after I had had a lay down so that was good. (…………….)I am so proud of both of you
•M. 23/11/15 at 18:02 (…………………………..)We are glad that our visit and breakfast outside the home, do not caused you trouble, in terms of health. However, if you go out every day, I guess you could feel better. I feel my heel better, but no way because I go to physiotherapy cabinet (the physiotherapist does not something; she just talks to me about what I feel), but because I massage my heel with a cream I received from Romania. I have no other news; all things are as we have described them when we visited you. We wish you health and all the best!
•J. 11/26/15 at 9:46 AM I hope you get your "passage!!!" thru very quickly. I am not too bad at the moment Please can you let me know your address so I can send you a Christmas Card
•M. 18/12/15 at 10:48 I sent you an e-mail on 11/12, but you didn't still answer. We hope you are ok regarding your health!
•J. 12/19/15 at 10:40 AM (……………………) Health is much the same but still having trouble with keeping food inside.Hope you are both well and good and MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A WONDERFUL NEW YEAR TO YOU BOTH
•M. 27/12/15 at 7:32 PM We have a very busy and stressful end of the year. (……………………….) I had a hearing at the Social Tribunal in Lincoln, which made the decision in my favour. Now I am waiting the DWP decision, which should comply with the Court's judgment. I was also, at Sutton in Ashfield hospital for a neurological assessment and the neurologist wants to send me to Nottingham for a scan. I have to do researches, to find out how to get there, because Calin is not free from work, to drive me there. (………………….) We hope you had a traditional meal on your table and you have, at least, a small Christmas tree in your home. We also hope that your health is a little bit better.
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•M. 01/23/16 at 12:46 PM We hope that during this time, as I have not written, your health situation became a little bit better, or, at least, it did not deteriorate. I recently received the DWP decision that complied with the judgment of the tribunal. Now I'm in the situation that I had before the conflict with DWP. This has improved a bit, our small budget. I got the letter from neurology with the shedule for MR in Sutton in Ashfield hospital. I tried to communicate with voluntary transport, but they did not answer. However I spoken to Calin, before and we have to go an hour before his usual departure to work, in order to attend my appointment and he will collect me from hospital after work. That means I will stay into the hospital about 11 hours. It's a bit difficult, but I do not have a better solution(………………) We wish you health and all the best.
•J. 01/24/16 at 7:35 AM Glad to hear that the DWP have helped a bit. I will give you that number again because it is FREE to everyone in Lincolnshire and you can book them to take you and also to bring you back.. you just need to be ready 2 hours before your appointment. They have helped me many times and actually took me to Lincoln hospital last Monday where Consultant is going to do another scan and an endoscopy again and maybe drain the fluid from my stomach area. It is 0843 357 1556 but I think they only answer Monday to Friday.If you have any problem with the Voluntary Car driving let me know and Iwill do it for you.
•M. 01/25/16 at 12:15 PM DWP did not help me, of compassion, but it was forced to comply with the Court's decision, which, at it's turn did not help me, of compassion, but it had to apply correctly the law, at my documented and well supported appeal. If Voluntary Car driving has not responded to my request, which I sent last week, I suppose that they will not help me with transportation to the hospital, which is located in Nottinghamshire. I think the best solution is the one about I wrote you: that Calin drives me there. However thank you for your offer to help me! We wish you to be healthy and good luck with the new scan, endoscopy and the drain of the fluid from your stomach area.
•M. 02/15/16 at 2:01 PM Two weeks have passed since I was in Sutton in Ashfield for MRI scan, but I still have not received any results. Almost 8 years ago, I had a CT scan, in Romania and I have discovered that I have a midbrain malformation. The neurologist in Romania wanted to send me to do MRI, but I refused. The UK neurologist, initially, wanted to send me to test dopamine quantity in my brain, to determine if I have Parkinson's disease; but he sent me to head MRI scan. Anyway, I think that this MRI scan was the first but also the last I done. So, I have no news, neither from the hospital nor from the HO. Calin was sick this weekend. He had a big stomach pain, after a visit to Lincolnshire Otter. I wanted to call an ambulance for him, but I applied on him the natural treatments I know, and because they were effective, I gave up. You may have been to the hospital, so far, for a new colonoscopy and can give us news, which we hope will not be worse than previous ones. We hope that your health is, at least, like when you wrote us last time.
•J. 02/15/16 at 2:42 PM Sorry to hear about theMRI scan etc. I think you should ring your Doctor and ask him if the Consultant has yet sent through the report about you, however knowing how slow the NHS is I guess it could be a while yet? I think if Calin is now better you must call 111 or 999 and get him some help please? There is is neuro virus which is bad and maybe he could have that? I have been in hospital again because I cannot keep food inside and they are now trying me on a new anti sickness tablet. It has just cost me over £80 in taxi fares to even get the tablets. I am still awaiting new endoscopy and draining of the fluids (f they decide to do that) WE ARE A POORLY LOT ARE NOT WE!?(…………….)I wish you all the best and please keep me informed
•M. 02/17/16 at 2:01 PM I have no reason to call the GP because in the past 2 years they have changed alot and because, if I want to find something, I can do that online and I can learn from my account to the NHS. I solved Calin health problem exclusively with naturist treatment, so I have no reason to call at 111 or 999. But what worries me and puzzled me now, is why you can not keep the food inside. Also I do not understand why the Voluntary drivers have not driven you to hospital, surgery, pharmacy! (…………………………) Hopefully, with the new treatment, you will be a bit better!
•J. 02/23/16 at 12:29 PM Sorry but I have been back in hospital for various reasons! I thought I had answered your email but my laptop is not working too well. I hope you and Calin are good and well
•M. 03/15/16 at 3:36 PM Yesterday we went to the doctor for Calin's digestive problem. It was, in order to have prescribed some tests; then we will provide a diagnosis and establish, ourselves, the proper treatment. However, he feels much better after a serious diet, without dairy, eggs, fats, sweets with sugar, coffee, beer and raw fruits and vegetables. He drinks 2 cups of chamomile and lime tea/day, sweetened with acacia honey, eat little quantity of food, has frequent meals, chews food well and do not get nervous at the table. When I entered, with him in the doctor's office, she asked if I am his wife and told me I look 30. That amused us, but also it put, seriously, in doubt her ability. So we stick to conclude that we go to doctor, just to get the paperwork we need and to be sent to tests, that otherwise could not be done and we need to decide a diagnosis and the appropriate treatment. I received the result of the MRI, which says, what I already knew, namely, that I have a lesion on midbrain (possibly from some kicks with a box mounted on a pole and the pavement of a street I slipped on). Anyway, I will not leave the doctors to cleave in my brain! We have not other news, but maybe you do. We both hope that someday, you will be better and you could go outside more than up to the pub nearby.
•J. 03/17/16 at 1:38 PM Hiya both and thank you for your email. Sorry I have not been in touch but have been back in hospital again and also had to call 999 a couple of times. The psychiatrist is not helpful either. Well done Calin for sorting out your digestive problems - perhaps I need to learn from you and will try the "tea!" Glad you are only 30!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sorry about the MRI scan but you say that you already knew this. I don't got out much now as I am always sick but have been to Kenwick this morning with Tracey (step daughter) and had a bacon sandwich!!!! Nice!
•M. 03/24/16 at 4:04 PM Happy Birthday for your 64 years old! We both wish you good health! As I said many times before you, we wish you to be the active woman you were before, enjoying spring, meetings with friends and acquaintances, a nice lunch and everything that you've enjoyed in the past, not long ago!
•M. 04/08/16 at 12:44 PM (……………….) We went to the doctor, mostly because Calin wanted to convince himself if a doctor knows better than me to give a diagnosis by analyzing the test results. And he was convinced that from a doctor he only needs to refer him to tests, because I am not allowed to do that and because I know to interpret the results and give a diagnosis and appropriate treatment better. For me she did not know what to say, so I was sent to Rheumatology. Anyway she made another blunder. I told her that I do not speak English so well like my son and she dictated the letter for Rheumatology saying that I speak a poor English and I might need someone to translate. She told me that Calin can go with me, and I said that I get along without him and without any interpreter. I was not upset for her blunder, but it reinforced my idea that her intellectual capacity is lacking! (…………………) We hope you had a pleasant Easter holidays in the company of your sister. Also we hope that your health improved even a little bit!
•M. 04/25/16 at 2:59 PM (………….)However, in a future weekend, we will come to pay you a visit (…..) Calin has no longer the digestive problems that he had, but he continue to drink the chamomile tea and I cook dietetic menus. I have some problems with joints, veins and skin; but there is nothing new or too complicated to treat.(……..…)How do you spend your time now that spring has come? We hope that your health is a bit better now that it is a little warmer outside. You may can get a bit more walk and socialize!
•J. 04/26/16 at 6:30 AM Hiya thank you for your email my computer has been scammed and I have only just got it working again. Congratulations on your achievement but I am sorry that I do not think I am well enough to come to see you but will be great to see you after if you can bring pictures and your certificate. Glad Calin is better I have more hospital appointments because I am not keeping any food down.
•M. 05/19/16 at 11:45 AM I have not written for some time because I do not feel too good. I struggled for a month with rheumatic and arthritis pains.The right leg is worse and now the middle upsets me. I have a malaise, perhaps due to lack of vitamins and minerals. I exaggerated a little with work, inside of the house and in the garden; maybe because of that and the fact that I sleep bad and I do not feel rested, as always otherwise. Calin is, however, in a good health, even if very tired. (……..)You said in the last email that you will go again to the hospital because you do not keep the food inside. I guess this is not the only problem that you go so often in hospital! So many visits to the hospital and your medical treatments have not changed even a little bit your health situation? Now that summer is near, you maybe can go out at least for 1-2 hours a day on the bench from outside! We, me and Calin, think, maybe with the treatment that you do, you will be a little better! Maybe in the future you could give us this news!
•M. 06/15/16 at 3:54 PM I wrote you two emails but I did not receive any answer. I hope you're at least as you were when we last visit you. Perhaps you have’nt answered because as you said in the last e-mail, you may have had and still have several appointments at the hospital. Hopefully things go well for you and you do not have the problem where you can not keep food inside! (……………………………..) I still have problems with my legs. I went to a specialist, but, as expected, did not do something to help. But you know, I solve our health problems, myself.
•J. 06/19/16 at 6:54 AM No I havenot been very well and so have not even checked my emails – sorry (…….….)Sorry Calin continues to be tired but he does work hard Hope you are okay
•M. 07/25/16 at 5:17 PM (…………..) Now I and Calin hold, each of us, two passports and we will see how we will be able to travel, because we do not have much money, time and health. Regarding health I continue to have problems with my legs, not so great as I had, because the weather is warmer and I do gymnastics every day. I think last week I had heart problems and anemia because it was too hot outside and because my weight exceeds with 12-13 kg the normal weight. Calin continues to be very tired, because he goes sleeping too late in the night and he sleeps too less. He is heavier than normal and he suffers mentally because he has no time for himself. (……………….) How is your health, are you a little better or same as before? Have you been hospitalized lately? Do you go, at least, in the front yard for a chat and to breathe the air from outside? What do you eat and where? Do you manage to keep, lately, the food inside?
•J. 27/07/16 at 6:48 AM Don't know if you have sent me email cos laptop crashed. I have been in hospital for 4 weeks and then 1 week in respite car so sorry if you have been in touch and think I have not replied.
•M. 07/27/16 at 11:31 AM (………………………………..) Hope you are a little better after hospital and respite care!
•M. 9/08/16 at 13:20 I sent you two emails, 1 while you were in the hospital and the 2nd when you're out of the hospital, but you still have not answered. I hope this is because you did not have your laptop functional, and not because your health has deteriorated. Maybe you can answer now. We hope you feel a little bit better!
•J. 08/10/16 at 8:34 AM I have now been in respite care for one week but discharged myself because it was so disgusting.... dogs saton the dining tables on the table clothes and then licking out of the cups. I am feeling a little better thank you. They have changed lots of my medication and I have stopped drinking the whiskey!Everyone says I look much better. Hope you and Calin are good be good to see you
•M. 31/08/16, 15:53 At least, for 3 weeks, I am trying to persuade Calin to wake up in the morning during we, to go to visit you. But I always failed because he is so tired of waking up in the morning to go to work, that he is, desperately, waiting the we to sleep until noon. Unfortunately, we know that you sleep always after lunch. Or, you do not sleep any longer so much, now that your medication changed!? Me either, I'm tired all time because Calin's program (………..). I go to sleep early at night, but the health problems, that I have, do not let me sleep enough and the sleep is not restful. Therefore all day I am dizzy and lacking energy. If I am so, given that I do not have serious health problems, I can imagine how hard it must be for you. Anyway, we hope that the new medication that has been prescribed to you, will improve your health! We hope you are visited by old friends and relatives sometimes! Maybe now when you feel a little better, you get out and socialize with people. We think of you all time and wish you good health!
•J. 09/01/16 at 8:54 AM Lovely to hear form you but sorry you and Calin are not feeling too well. After coming out of hospital I was sent to a respite care home which was awful but the hospital changed my medication and now I can eat better so that is good. If you feel like coming over I will make sure I am up and out of bed whatever time it is - be lovely to see you and your photograph. No real news to tell you
•M. 8/09/16 at 16:24 We have wanted to make you a visit last week, but I had big problems with my right leg, which hurts, since this spring. I suspect that it is not only the joint, but could be the veins and some nerves in the leg which are pressed. When I take a Romanian medicine for nerves calming , the pain releases a little the leg, but as you know I do not take or abuse synthetic medicine; so, sometimes I just get some rest and I have no greater pain. (……………) Anyway, I hope that by October we can come to visit you. If you say that you feel better with the new medication, we hope that you can get out for a little bit.
•J. 10/16/16 at 10:29 AM Good to hear from you and Calin(……...) I hope your illness is not too bad. I am still not drinking the whiskey and can eat now quite well in fact I am eating too much! You can always ring me (…) to see if I will be ok to visit the next day I cannot do Wednesday as I now go to see a psychologist who is helping me with my mental illness. It would be good to see you and maybe go for a snack or coffee.
•M. 14 November 2016, 17:22 We hope that your health is just as, or better than you said in your last email! (……………………………………..) I felt better for a while, but now I have again problems with my right leg, probably because the weather changes often, or it is something else that hurts. I had an appointment to neurology at Lincoln, but I had to cancel it because I do not have transport and the hospital do not provide me free transport. We both think at you all time, but we had and have problems and therefore do not know what to say about visiting you!
•J. 11/15/16 at 10:41 AM (………………………….) Sorry your leg is playing up have you tried the free Hospital Transport scheme which is Tel: 0843 357 1556 I qualify so I cannot see why you would not? No news here.We have one man in one of the flats who is being a real "bully" and upsetting everyone - it is very unpleasant. He has said some nasty things to me so I have reeported him but I doubt they will do anything. I am still eating fairly well and have now stopped seeing the psychologist - she was very nice and helpful. Hope you are keeping a good and well as possible
•J. 12/19/16 at 10:10 AM How are you both. I am ok but there is a of trouble here at the flats with people being nasty to each other and they seem to be picking on me worst of all. Please can you send your adress so I can send you a card for Christmas and New Year.
•J. 12/27/16 at 11:46 AM I know you have just sent me an email and I started to reply and it disappeared! Soyou may get half an email Me not too good
•M. 27/12/16 at 11:28 We called several times, but if you did not answer we assumed that you are not home or you are sleeping, so we could not come. (………………………………..) Sorry we could not come yesterday, but we think all the time to you and we wish you to be healthy and peace with your neighbours!
•J. 12/27/16 at 11:48 AM I am sorry if I did not answer the phone but have been mostly in bed and not feeling very good. The "bully" got at me on Christmas Day and I have reported him to the Police but they will not do anything. He has got other people to harass me. I have asked the Landlord who is a Housing Association and they have visited me but will do nothing. I have also asked a Solicitor to send him a letter but he still does not stop..I have not been out of the flat since Christmas Day. Hopefully Iwill be better in the New Year Wishing you both A WONDERFUL NEW YEAR
•M. 29/12/16 at 13:12 Why do you think that those nasty neighbours are bullying you? What reasons, says the neighbor he has, to bully you? Does he bully you verbally or physically, or both? Maybe Tracy could talk to that neighbour to reassure him! Is that neighbour mentally ill? Where he lives? I am asking these questions, that I do not understand why you would be bullied by this neighbour; why he thinks you disturb him. You said that after you changed your medication and was at psychologist you feel better. Do you need to change the medication again? How are you with the hours of sleeping and with feeding? We hope that all these issues would have a resolve to not be so stressful!
•J. 12/29/16 at 4:10 PM Yes I was a bit better after seeing the psychologist and she worked out that my trouble is that I always try and put other people's needs above my own! The bullying is a long story and began when a woman called me "A SPY"I tried to say I wasnt but she is a big bully and has got teh Chairman of a group and two others to go against me as well as her. It just gets worse and worse and has been going on since September. I have tried the Police, the Landlord and now they are making it worse by sending in complaints abut me and the Landlords are coming to see me 10.1.17 - I do not know what I am accused of but am worried they will try and evict me. Did you have a good Christmas? Will let you know what happens HAPPY 2017
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•M. 01/03/17 at 4:53 PM We hope that the new year brings you better things than the last year and certainly more health. I'm curious to know why the neighbours say you're a spy. Do you have a binoculars that you use to spy the neighbours home and report them to the authorities? *:)) laughing Why would you be evicted by the landlord? This is happening sometimes for proven antisocial behaviour! I do not think you can be evicted for that! Anyway, we hope that things will clarify between you and the neighbours who bully you and you will have peace!
•J. 01/16/17 at 1:39 PM I hope you are both good and well. I am still being bullied and now have been threatened with eviction because all the bullies have got together and just lie about things. I have applied to another Housing Association and have a meeting tomorrow (…………….)
•M. 25/01/17 at 13:59 I wrote you early in January, but you have not answered. Perhaps you did not receive the email or you did not see it.(…………………………) I do not understand why the neighbours continue to bother you, if you applied for another house. Also, I still do not understand why you should spy on your neighbours, in whose behalf you should do that and how you would do it !!!! Anyway, we hope that the medication can help you feel better, at least physically!
•J. 01/25/17 at 3:27 PM The neighbours are divided between two groups, one group trying to control others so of course I spoke out and I am now getting the blame for everything.I should just have kept quiet but you know me I am too honest!So one group say I am spying on them in the lounge to tell the other group and I have not! I have been looking at some other properties here in Louth just in case they try and evict me but I dont think they will dare because it will look bad on the Landlords who are a Housing Association (like ACIS) I have heard the Manager and one of the bullies talking about me and my mental health and so I dont think that was very good as she is supposed to be confidential!Hope things get better for you both
•M. 02/07/17 at 2:35 PM (………..)How was your sister visit? So how are you feeling, lately? Are you a little bit better? Do you still have problems with the neighbours? We are the same as always, tired and poor!
•J. 02/07/17 at 3:24 PM (………..) things have got worse and when my sister came she ignored me and went to all the bullies and got all their phone numbers and contacts and got another bully to come and tell me off for things I had not done. She also expected me to pay for her visit, all the train fares, taxis,meals, her wine, etc. and then spent her time with the bullies and a "new MAN!".He then was so rude to me on her departure I feel very upset and have called the psychiatrist today because I feel I am not so well.(………..)
•M. 03/08/17 at 1:06 PM (……………………) Although both of us have trouble sleeping, our health is not too bad. I would like to start work in the garden, but I feel too tired, because I sleep badly at night. So everything is the same as before, very monotonous and annoying. I can not imagine how you occupy your time! How are behaving, lately, your neighbors, especially the bully ones? Your health has improved, now that the weather has warmed? For what reason, your sister behaved so bad with you, does she have an aim?
•M. 24/03/17 at 11:21 I wrote some time ago, but you did not answer. I hope you do not feel bad and your problem with your bullying neighbors was abating. However, we wish you, Happy Birthday, for tomorrow, and forever, be healthy and active! Our situation is as stressful as always, so nothing changed!
•J. 03/24/17 at 4:29 PM Thank you very much for your kind birthday wishes I have been in hosital again for the last two weeks but there is nothing they can do. I have to stop drinking the whiskey and am seeing somone about this but there is a long waiting list, Sorry to hear you are still having problems, me too with this bunch of idiots here!!!
•M. 21/04/17 at 14:56 (……………….) I have some health problems but, compared to yours, they are minor. (……............)Why do the doctors have nothing to do to you? You mean regarding the last surgery? You said, in one of your emails, you do not drink anymore whiskey, but I find out from your last email that you have not left it. What have you done with your application for another home? Does anyone else insist you move from there? How do neighbors behave with you lately? Do you have the same program that means you sleep for 20 hours and you take a lot of pills? Do you attend the psychologist, or do you still have to wait for the appointment? We hope you are not as bad as we can understand from your emails
•J. 04/23/17 at 8:10 AM (……………………..) I did stop the whiskey for about 6 months but at Christmas had a drink and now I am back to drinking far too much daily. I am seeing Addaction about it but they take such a long time. The surgeons can do nothing for my failed operations for risk of infection which would be very bad and serious. I am sorry if I made it sound that I am so bad.... I am!!! But dont want to put it on people I am not going to move and will fight it in Court if they try to evict me. I have spent a lotof money on this flat and cannot afford to move, so it is better to "be with the Devil you know rather than move and find another Devil I dont know!!"(English saying!) Can I help you with any of your problems?
•M. 05/15/17 at 2:42 PM You asked if you can help with something to make easier the problems we have. Just you wish us good luck, things to work well and fast. (………………) Because I am the only working in the house, Calin having no time, I'm doing this in a fairly long time. We still have other issues that concern our financial security, which I have to solve and for which I have to read a lot. Calin has his 5 days work/week and the school. (…………………) he's very stressed and busy (……………). Maybe, however, somehow he makes time out this summer to come and see you. If you have some news about your health and your relationship with your neighbors, please let us know. We hope things stay the same or your health and relationship with your neighbors, improved.
•M. 12/06/17, 13:07 I wrote you a few weeks ago, but you did not answer. Maybe you were, in the hospital again, or something else happened. We hope you are, at least, in the same state that you were at your last email! We wish you health and good things happen to you!
•J. 06/13/17 at 9:31 AM Yes you were correct and I have now been back in hospital twice and for about 2 weeks at a time. I am just unable to eat and was being sick with brining up blood. I am out now and feel a little better so thank you so much for asking after me.
•M. 14/07/17 at 12:07 It seem you go very often in hospital. Maybe right now you're there again, so I'm waiting for news when you can give them. How is your overall health and social situation toward last year? Are things the same or not? Do you prefer to stay in hospital or at home and why? How do you spend your time, when you feel better? We have not made progresses regarding the matters we have to deal with. We're waiting for all sorts of answers, but time seems to freeze. Calin is more tired of work and because he goes to bed late in the night. However, our health does not seem to be bad, except the permanent fatigue. I do not know anything else to say, but you will learn we think often and speak about you! We wish for you to be better and to socialize!
•J. 07/16/17 at 8:14 AM Yes I seem to be spending more time in hospital but there is nothing they can really do for me.... it is a mixture of the failed operations I had and sickness and mental ill health and drinking the whiskey! I would love to be better and socialise but it is difficult to go out when you are feeling sick and dont want to be ill in anyone's car or restaurant. Sorry you seem to be having problems with your issues - (……………….)- I am still being bullied here! Sorry Calin is having to work so hard but is it better here in England than what you had in Romania? At least you have the company of each other which is lovely. Computer "died" last week so dont know if I have missed any of your previous email/s and thank you for your kind concern. I am seeing two more psychiatrists over next two weeks and they dont wan to seem responsible for all the tablets they are prescribing for me? Wishing you both all the best wishes I can
•M. 08/18/17 at 4:17 PM I write rarely because the truth is that I have a lot of problems, whose solving takes time and because I am very tired. I often fall asleep in front of the computer because of the bad night's sleep. Calin is even more tired due to 5 days/week work and the school. In the last email you say you still drink whiskey, but in an older email you said you no longer drink it. Did you ever stopped drinking whiskey? You also say you do not socialize because you do not want to be ill in someone's car or in the restaurant. If you do not go out, how you sort out your personal problems, food, shopping etc. I do not understand how the disease would manifest in someone's car, but you may explain me. What do you do with your time, during day time? Do you watch TV, chat with friends online, do you do some domestic work, do you do some crafts? Who is visiting you? Is there still the older woman you had as friend last year? Are you better at the hospital than at home? Are you talking to someone in the residence, or are you having problems with all residents because of those who are bullying you? We are sorry your physical health does not improve. Probably that's why you have mental problems. But maybe you do not take so many pills, especially with whiskey and you may not sleep so much like lately and you found something to do during the day!
•M. 09/13/17 at 10:40 AM You did not answer to my email and that's what we're worried about. Maybe you were back in the hospital, or maybe you had problems with your laptop or you did not see my email. We hope your health problems has not got worse.
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•M. 11/10/17 at 10:41 You have not answered my emails for a long time. Maybe you've been in the hospital for a longer time, or your laptop has crashed again! However, we hope your health has not got worse. We are, as usual, very tired and busy with various problems. Maybe you can write some more about yourself, like how you spend your time. We wish you health, peace with neighbors and socialization!
•J. 10/12/17 at 12:23 PM Dear Marylena My name is Tracey and I'm Judies step daughter. It is with great sadness that I must tell you that Judie has passed away. I am just going through Judies emails and trying to inform everyone that I can. Thank you staying in touch with Judie over the years, I know she has appreciated it very much. I wish you all the very best in the future. Tracey
•M. 10/13/17 at 4:33 PM Dear Tracey Condolences for the loss suffered. Calin and I were deeply saddened to hear this bad news because there was a special connection between us, Judie being one of the few people who helped us to start a new life in a foreign country. It was a long suffering after an unsuccessful operation. If you have time you may tell us where she is buried, to pay her a last tribute! best wishes Marylena & Calin
REST IN PEACE!
(2008)
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